Sunday, September 27, 2009
1985 was not a particularly good year for me. I was still reeling over the break-up with my boyfriend. He would do stupid things like call me when he was home from college on the weekends, and ask me to go out to a movie or dinner...and like an idiot I would go. We would have a good time and by the end of the evening I would be so happy. And then he would say to me "This doesn't mean that we are back together, or anything....." there are only so many times that your heart can be broken without getting mad...or getting even.
My mother loves to refer to this stage of my life as "Missy's Acting Out year." I was "acting out" because she and Dad separated, sold our family home (and everything in it) while I was at college, no less. Yes...I was angry. I was angry at them for wrecking the one solid thing that I had...my home...my security....and I was angry about being dumped by Jeff, who treated me like the proverbial queen from May - October, then in November promptly dumped me...on my birthday. He called me the evening of my birthday and told me he was going bowling with his mother. Oh yeah...I cried for hours.
I had started taking Secretarial courses at a business college in January, so at least I was doing something constructive. By March, I was so angry about not having a boyfriend and how I had been treated, that I felt reckless. I kept telling my cousin Dawn I wanted to "do something dangerous". I had a plan. There was a guy in my accounting class that looked "dangerous" so to speak. He was very tall and skinny, kind of cute...he had a goatee, which for some reason fascinated me. I began stalking him. Maybe out of boredom? I don't know....what I do know is that I wanted him to like me. I wanted to go out with him. Dawn and I did all kinds of crazy stuff, like find out where he lived, then drove by his house in disguise. We followed him...we called him and said "there's a girl that likes you.....". I finally ended up meeting him...and going out with him. We were together almost 3 years.
What were YOU doing in 1985?
What were YOU doing in 1985???